Self-Esteem : Attitudes toward Ourselves

Suongmantam Dictionary chun ‘Self-Esteem’ kiti thucheng hi ‘ama le ama kijapina’ tin ana ledoh e. Hiti chu hilouva, mihem khat ama le ama akigel dan/akimu dan pa joh chu kiseina hung hijo ding dan ahi. Mihem khat ama le ama mitmua pha akisah dan/phamo akisah dan, sangtah ahilou le niemtah jong himaithei; alhangpia ama le ama akimu dan/akigel dan pa chu ‘Self-Esteem’ tin akiseiye. Attitude akiti tengle mihem khat in midang/thildang chunga amudan/alungel dan pa chu kiseina ahin; Self-Esteem akiti tah tenga ahile ama le ama tahngel ipi tobang mi a akigel pa chu kiseina ahikitne. Self-Esteem hi polanga mutheiya kilang hihen lang asunga langa muthei louva kinei hijong le tethei (measure) in akiseiye. Self-Esteem tena (measure) a kiha manpen method chu Rosenberg Scale tin akihei. [1]

Mihem hinkho a thil soh ho (life events) leh self-esteem hi akimatna aumin ahi. Bidoi (goals) poimo tah tah ho a lolhinna ahung umteng self-esteem akhang jin, amavang lolhin lelna aumteng chomkhat (temporarily) din akhesuh kit ji e. Tekahna in, mi khat chun angaisang tah thilkhat ahilou le atup khat aphah jou jeplou teng, self-esteem alhasuh ji e. Hiche hi Eisenstadt le Leippe (1994) in athil khuolna lhona amudoh lhon khat chu ahi. Min eihin chuombol, eiki hetmo sah, hetkham loua kithetna, etc ho jong hin mikhat self-esteem chu asuhniem peh thei ahi. Hitobang hi internet chat rooms, online chat le social network sites ho ajong umthei ahi tin Williams (2001) in ana khuol doh e.

Mi abang khat in self-esteem sangtah anei in, mi abang khat in self-esteem niemcha aneiye. Mi khat chu a self-esteem asaan anep ihetnom le thu umdan (statements) doh a ama dinga dih ham dihlou ham vet ding ahi. Chapang khat bang chu, ‘Kei homework bol kathemme’ ahiloule ‘Kaloihon eingai thei uve’ tiho gah doh a, ama dinmun toh kitoh nam kitoh lou ham, vetding ahi. Hitia akidoh tengleh, thu umdan (statement) ho chu dih asah a ahile, ama self-esteem chu ‘adihpoi’ ti chapang dangho sanga sang jo tina ahi jenge.[2] Khuolna neiho seidan in, chapang kum 6 a pat 7 sunga hi, self-esteem jat 4 (four areas) umdan ahitai. Hiche ho chu ahile : academic competence (lekhasimna), social competence (society a), athletic competence (kichep golseh) chule physical appearance (melput dan).

Self-esteem hi niseh umchan (behaviour) toh kijopmatna aneiye. Academic self-esteem sangtah nei chapang chu school (alekhasimna) a alhom nei ho sangin abolhoi jep teiye. Chapang social self-esteem sang nei jong chu akibahpi aloi le guol lah a anei lhom ho sangin alhathei jo in ahi.  Alangkhatna, self-esteem nemcha nei chapang ho chu lungkhamna (anxiety), depression (kingaisetna) chule khansetna (anti-social behaviour) ho aumdan achondan uva ahin tahlang ji taove. Ahin, mikhat self-esteem hi amoh saan val jongle apha dehpoi tin akiseiye. Ajehchu, mikhat self-esteem chu asaan val tengle michunga um danin (superiority complex) kigelna aum nome. Hiteng chule, achang kiletsahna (pride) aven (defend) got nalamin thilphalou jong asoda jipoi. Self-esteem sang tah nei mi chun thilkhat chu ama chan dinga lomin ana kigel ji e (sense of entitlement). Kivaipoh nan achan dinga agel khat chu achansah lou teng, achunga thildih lou kibol danin alajin, chutengleh kinahna/ki-engbolna/lamdih lou mangchan mi alethuh ji tai.[3]

Self-Esteem le Numei :

George Herbert Mead (1931) chun ivel-ikoma (environment) idinga poimo (important others) hon eimu dan in eima self-esteem chunga tha (effect) aneiye tin ana seiye. Alhangpia, pasal dinmun sanga numei dinmun anepjoh jeh chun, hiche hin ichana self-esteem atoh khah ham tichu hetnom khat ana hijinge. Williams le Best (1990) chun hiche thu a gam 14 (14 nations study) ana khuol lhone. India le Malaysia gam tobang, numei ho insunga kikhumna gamho a, numeiho self-esteem aniemdan (negative concept) ana mudoh lhone. Numei le pasal kikhen beh louna, England le Finland gama, numei ho pasal toh kibanga akigelnao jong ahedoh kit lhone. Numei jong natonga (labour force) apana gamho a numei ho self-esteem asangin, natonga (labour force) a apanlou nao gam hoa self-esteem anem’e. Neocha ahivangin het thei khop in numei le pasal self-esteem (gender-based)kikhetna aume.[1]

Criticism & Self-Esteem :

Mihem chu khatvei vei ei le ei jong aki ki oimo ji e (self-criticism). Cheti louvin jong, ingailut iloi le guol, tohkhompi, insungmi chule ichunga ho (superiors/bosses) a konin oimona/seiphat louna (criticism) akimu ji e. Hiche phat le chun, isunga awgin neo cha ging chun bolkhel kisihna le kichang oimona ahin lhut jin ahi. Hitobang aum phat le chun, ol-olin eima self-esteem chu athoh in ana pangjin akhesuh suh jeng ji tan ahi. Ithil bolkhat ahoi louna kisei (criticism) kitihi hi aumjing mong ahi. Kidem/ki oimo kiti hi jalai kihouna (social communication) khat jong ahikitne. Kidem/Ki oimo kiti hi thoh hah lheh jongle alah dan thep ngai ahi. Aphalam tah a kilah a eima khantouna dinga jong manthei ahi.[4]

Parenting & Self –Esteem :

Self-esteem hi nu le pa in eina khou khah dan in jong apoh danin akiseiye. Anu le apa in ana huh behseh (overprotective) golhang chapang ho chu asunga self-esteem niem in akiseiye. Amavang, akhandoh laiya (teenage) anu le apa in tahsan tah a ana khou khah chapang ho chu ama le ama akigelna (self-esteem) sang jo in akimu doh e. Chule, chapang in ngaicha khoh beh hih jong le, anu le apa in thulhuh asempeh ji ham ahiloule athulhuh semna a akithopi jing leh, hitobang chapang chu ama le ama kigel niemna khat akichinden ji tai (low self-esteem).[2]

Khumkhana :

Self-Esteem sanga Self-respect inei joh leh mihem lunggel a chamna aumjoi tia seijong aume. Self-esteem hi eima kikholna (evaluate) ahin, self-respect vang ihina kihet puma hinkho man chu ahi, tin akiseiye. Ihatna le imitmona kihet (accept) puma hing akihi jeh in self-respect neihi lungthim nopna hijo danin aksieiye.[5] Self-esteem jong hi nom le da le mihem sunga um khat ahin, pelthei ahipoi. Thil aval behseh ahoi aumlou bangin self-esteem jong hi asaan val jong le aniem val jong le phadeh lou danin akimui. Eima khantouna kham bepma positive self-esteem nei ding hi thilpha hinte. Eima le eima kigel niem beh lou ding, gel jong kigel sang beh seh lou ding ahi dan mudoh in aume. Hichu lungthim kicholna le mimal khantou-machalna thei lampi joh hung hinte.

References :

[1].  Robert A. Baron, Nyla R. Branscombe, Donn Byrne & Gopa Bhardwaj. Social Psychology. Twelfth Edition (2009) Pearson.

[2].  Psychology. Class-XII. National Council of Educational Training and Research (2007).

[3].  Steven Stosny. Anger in the Age of Entitlement. Psychology Today. Published on June 25, 2014.

[4].  Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Fulfillment in any Age. Psychology Today. Published on May 24, 2014.

[5].  Ellen J. Langer. Self-Esteem vs. Self-Respect. Psychology Today. Published on November 01, 1999.